Adoption, sharing stories, and that BIG question in the mind of some

My mind has been one track here lately.......adoption. I have no idea why. And, NO, we're not starting another adoption now or in the very near future (but we do plan to adopt again in the not-so-very-near future, let's at least get the three we have out of diapers and talking decent haha)! 

It seems like everything I'm reading lately has to do with adoption also. I must admit that I love it! I love hearing about people who are thinking about adopting, who have started adopting, who are traveling to get their children or for court, who are bringing kids home, I love it all. As a tears roll down my cheek (literally), I love the thought and the reality of there being one less orphan! My heart leaps with joy over one less person being fatherless and motherless! The truth is,  God's heart does too. It is always the Father's will for us to "defend the orphan" (Isaiah 1:17 NASB) and "to visit orphans..... in their affliction" (James 1:27 ESV). 

Having said that, I want to share two quick things.

1. If you or someone you know of is thinking about adopting or is in the process of adopting or you have adopted children in the past, I would love to hear your stories. Nothing is too small. Nothing is insignificant. I would love to hear about blogs you follow, travel experiences you've had, fundraisers you did, orphanages you've visited, books you have read, or whatever you would like to share. Also feel free to ask any questions you might have about adoption. I might not be able to answer some of them, but I'm sure my wife could if I can't (don't tell her I said that, I don't want her getting the big head or anything haha).

2. I read a really good article this morning. It is an excellent read for anyone who has had thoughts or interests about adopting but didn't take them seriously for whatever reason. There could possibly be this one thought or question, in particular, in your mind and it's holding you back. Although I never "struggled" with this, it definitely crossed my mind in the beginning and I can say the exact same thing that Pastor Jason Helopoulos says in this article. Check it out!


http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/kevindeyoung/2013/04/17/adoption-a-real-question/

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"Orphanology" Book Review

One thing I really love about traveling is all the reading I get to do. A couple of weeks ago I started a book called "Orphanology" by Tony Merida and Rick Morton. I finished it on the way over to Moscow (and got halfway through my next book). I would love to start to do some book reviews/summaries of some of the books I read and really enjoy. I can think of no better one to start on than "Orphanology".

Most of you probably know mine and my wife's heart about adoption. In fact, within 12 hours I should be seeing my second adopted son, Heath, again. This makes the second time seeing him. The first time was in April. I really felt like it was my responsibility to read this book due to its nature.

This was a very good read for anyone going through an adoption, wanting to learn more about adoption, orphan care, orphan hosting, or foster care. Also for those trying to find ways to tangibly help the fatherless outside of actually adopting. I would also highly recommend the book for anyone in ministry. It has a theological beginning and then works its way into the practical ways any church can get involved with bringing justice to the fatherless.

The first chapter was my favorite because of the discussion of the doctrine of adoption as found in the New Testament. They communicate an understanding of both "vertical" adoption and "horizontal" adoption. Horizontal adoption is when people adopt other people. Vertical adoption is when God adopts us into His family, by grace, through faith in the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus of Nazareth. You would be amazed at all of the similarities between the two.

I won't spoil them all but just to get your wheels turning, here is one. Adoption is costly. I can vouch for that! Depending on what country you go to, you can pretty much guarantee spending between $20,000 and $50,000. That's a lot of cheese!!! Thankfully God provides every step of the way because horizontal adoption is His will. One of the ways He has provided for my family is by putting awesome people like YOU in my life! Practically everyone I know has contributed to our adoption in some way or another and I THANK YOU for that! In a similar way, vertical adoption is costly (and God's will) also. In fact, it cost God so much that He sent His only Son to take the punishment you and I deserve, which is physical death and eternal suffering. Jesus did die for us. But He also bore that suffering we deserve in a moment's time for every man, woman, boy, and girl in the entire world on the Cross at Calvary. And now because of that high price paid by Jesus, "it is finished" (John 19:30), and we can be joint heirs with Him in eternity (Romans 8:17). Tell me that wasn't a high price!

The book touches several different aspects of adoption and orphan care. Here are a few:

1. The theology of adoption.
   
2. God's concern for the fatherless as revealed in the Scriptures.
3. What our concern should look like for the fatherless, individually and corporately.
4. Adoption as "Plan A", not "Plan B".
5. Leading and creating a local church culture that reaches out to orphans.
6. The church partnering with orphanages locally and globally, even if it is not through mission trips, but through giving and prayer.
7. Training for church laypeople on adoption and orphan care.
8. Starting an adoption funding program in your local church.
9. Supporting all aspects of an adoption.
10. The church and its need to reach out to local orphans through foster care.
11. Supporting those who are in the transition of bringing home an adopted child or a foster child.
12. How to do orphan hosting, which is the opposite of a mission trip. It is actually where orpahns come to you for a period of about two weeks.
13. Also at the end of each chapter is a personal adoption story. Those are always good to hear!

In conclusion, I will quote Tony Merida's words that I couldn't have said better myself. They brought (and still bring) tears to my eyes. (By the way, Joshua is the child in Ethiopia he was adopting at the time he was finishing up writing this book.) "We wrote this book because there are more than 140 million Joshua's in the world today. I know I'll see some of them in a few days. In fact, the hardest part about adopting for me isn't living in a different country, eating different food, spending a lot of money, or rearranging some things in my home and life to make room for another child. The most heart-wrenching aspect of adopting Joshua will be leaving behind other kids. I still remember the day we left Ukraine, and the sight of the wonderful children watching us drive away. It was a sobering reminder that the world is not as it should be."

I will see, with my own two eyes, something very similar tomorrow in the heart of Moscow. Satan has those kids right where he wants them.

I pray that you would find your place in "bringing justice to the fatherless" (Isaiah 1:17) sooner rather than later. It's what the Gospel is all about, you are living proof (Ephesians 1:5).